Comedian Andrea Rappaport knows what it’s like going through life’s biggest jokes — a love story turned toxic relationship and signing divorce plans that went wrong.
In this episode, the How Not to Suck at Divorce podcast host shares her journey going through the process with her two young boys making many painful mistakes and shedding light on how you can avoid them.
▶️ What To Do And Not To Do After Divorce with Andrea Rappaport
✔️ One of the biggest mistakes people make post-divorce is to stop going to therapy because they think it’s over.
Andrea pleads those going through a rough patch never stop getting professional support pre and post-divorce. “One of the biggest things I recommend is keeping your butt in a therapist’s chair. Keep talking. I have a personal therapist. I have a therapist who helps me with my children, who helps me navigate my kids’ needs based on what they went through and all that stuff. And I have a therapist for my current relationship because I want to make sure that I’m not repeating behavior and traits that I picked up in past relationships.”
✔️ A parenting agreement is a tough document to change.
Never miss out on having a professional help you through that step. Andrea says, “It’s easy to make mistakes, especially if you are in a high-conflict divorce or where there’s abuse of different types going on. There’s a myriad of reasons why these mistakes get made in a parenting agreement. What are your child’s needs at that point, and what is the best scenario for your kid? It is not an agreement for the parents. It’s an agreement for the child, and I can’t stress that enough.”
✔️ Taking advice from friends and family can keep us stuck.
They try to take you out of your emotion because they’re uncomfortable being in it with you. If you choose to do things independently, you will waste more time, even if you feel you are strong enough. Experts come in to guide you through the process and provide actionable steps that will get you back on your feet faster.
✔️ We will do things in our divorce that will hurt the kids and ourselves.
Yet, we must do it to make peace and end the chronic conflict. We teach our kids to make similar choices by not settling for less and support them well to become more empathetic and resilient adults.
Andrea Rappaport is a humorist and image consultant. Funny people are usually a result of something very unfunny, and Andrea is no exception. Known for her candor on her Instagram platform @theandrearappaport, Andrea shares the journey of her traumatic divorce and single mommy life with two young boys. She mixes plenty of humor, because laughter is her favorite form of cardio.
Professionally, Andrea provides goal-based consulting to individuals and businesses. She blends her 20+ years in the beauty and fashion industry with her expert communication skills from her 20+ years of acting training and 40+ years of therapy. Andrea’s clients learn to speak effectively to their audience while showing themselves in the most authentic way. Her clients range from small businesses looking to rebrand to post-divorce individuals looking to get back on the dating scene.
A graduate of Chicago’s Second City Conservatory, Andrea’s wit has been featured on TODAY Parents, The Jam, The Tamron Hall Show, Windy City LIVE, and Great Day SA. Her story has been shared in Uploader Magazine and Voyage Chicago. Her hobbies include: keeping her boys alive, watching her own insta stories, and bragging about her VIP status at Marshall’s/TJ Maxx/HomeGoods.
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And contact her on Instagram @theandrearappaport
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