For the first 40 years of my life, I believed that I could change other people because I’m Wonder Woman. And lo and behold, it took my divorce and feeling betrayed to learn that all the love in the world was not enough to change him.
Reframe what it means to go through betrayal and discover how the person you want the most can be the person that you are your best without — because the people who come into your life don’t mean that they’re meant to stay.
Top points you’ll discover:
✔️ The person you look at every day in the mirror is YOU. You don’t have to wait to be in a romantic relationship to feel in love or wait for someone to start enjoying your life, do that starting today.
✔️ Stop wasting your valuable time trying to change another person because all you’re doing is fighting an uphill battle or swimming upstream. How much energy are you selling to somebody who is not willing to receive it?
✔️ Remember the movie Jerry Maguire when Tom Cruise tells Renee Zellweger, “You complete me.” In the film, I bet you also had a teardrop-falling moment right there. And yet, the truth is, even in the absence of another person or a relationship, you are whole. People come into our lives to complement us, NOT complete us, to make us feel loved, or to make us feel validated.
✔️ A conscious and equal partnership is rooted in acceptance. If you feel the need to change somebody else, that person probably isn’t the right person for you. A conscious and equal partnership is rooted in accepting one another, which doesn’t mean that you have to be something you’re not or that you have to change someone to be what you want them to be.
✔️ It can be quite challenging to understand, but things happen FOR us. Know that the right person will come for you, someone who is willing to shower you with love without you having to ask for it! Trust the universe to open and close all the doors that are meant to be opened and closed. Things happen for you to prepare for what’s next and a much bigger plan to fulfill your purpose.
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Going through an immense betrayal can be the most difficult thing to get over. In fact, it makes it hard for us to trust others again. Believe me. I know how it feels. My ex-husband cheated on me, and he was the last person I’d have ever thought to be capable of hurting me. It took me some time to realize that trust has to start within ourselves.
After her son was born, Kristy Carruthers had to sell off their clothing, jewelry, and belongings. She started interviewing for jobs at four weeks postpartum. After living on credit cards for a few months, she just hit the end of the rope and ended up having to sell the house to pay the credit card bills. That’s when the mind shift happened. I said to myself, ‘You know what? This can never happen again. This is not acceptable.'”
When I was married, divorce was never on my mind.
It never occurred to me that it had to be something I should learn about.
Fast forward to today, it continues to be that gift that keeps on giving. It has taught me about myself more than I ever knew.
Even though I’ve undergone therapy, I still believe that what I’ve endured and experienced post-divorce unraveled five lessons that I never would’ve discovered on my own.