There’s still so much shame and guilt surrounding divorce when there doesn’t have to be. In this episode, I am grateful to share the screen with entrepreneur and visionary Kimberlee Hoertz, the founder of The Graceful Exit platform. She stands by the mission of telling her own difficult experiences to help so many who are going through the same path. Discover how Kimberlee has turned her pain into purpose and how she is now supporting and inspiring women to regain their voice and start using it as they recover from their divorces.
Key Points in this Episode:
✔️ You have the choice to take the Graceful Exit. As a mother, as a female, as an entrepreneur, you could go down and take the vicious cycle, that horrific road in getting hostile about your ex. Some children will take the damage. It is crucial to move this harrowing experience with grace.
✔️ The question is often asked so many times, “should I keep the family home?” Kimberlee Hoertz reminds us of this when deciding about the family home as you go through a separation or divorce. “Don’t lose sight that they’re only four walls. You can create new memories wherever you go, as long as you feel confident in your space.”
✔️ The Graceful Exit that is rooted in Kimberlee’s own horrid experience. “I have found my purpose in all of it. I have found strength that I have never known before and would like to share my vulnerability to inspire others that YOUR voice matters. I have now been able to make my own graceful exit, and my hope is to share my experience and education of what I have learned.”
✔️ Everybody is there for your wedding and to hold your hand through the good times, but not for divorce. Kimberlee shares, “We have this section called the Trusted Professionals, and that’s where I take the time to vet through each of those people that I bring on to make sure that they align for our mission and values. Because unfortunately, through my divorce, I had to fire my lawyer at one point because they weren’t in it for me. They were in it for the dollars. Referencing or referring other women to the site is part of our mission is to create this trusted professional network and a community within our network to feel confident to ask for help and support.”
✔️ No matter your background, ethnicity, or financial background — an unhealthy relationship can happen to anybody. Education is vital to avoid having complicated relationships. Kimberly states, “My mission is to educate people on what is a healthy relationship or a marriage? What are the signs of a narcissist? What are the signs of abuse? Had I had some of that education before marriage, I wouldn’t be in this place. So if I could go back and have that piece of it, I think it would be so powerful. I don’t want anybody to go through a divorce if they don’t have to. So if I can educate that younger generation, the teens, the tweens, the college-age women, perhaps they’ll never get to this point. However, if you do get to it, know that there’s a way out. There’s joy on that other side, and that’s where the graceful exit came through.”
Connect with Kimberlee Hoertz
Kimberlee is a believer, a mother, a sister, a daughter, a CPA, a realtor, a leader, and now a visionary. The founder of The Graceful Exit website, a platform for women to come together and support one another due to the tremendous sense of isolation during divorce; a network they can turn to for support and guidance.
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