The Journey From Rock Bottom to Rock Star Results with Connell Barrett

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Is dating fatigue getting the best of you? 

In this episode, lean in and listen to Connell Barrett’s journey of self-discovery and living a life that he loves that started after a divorce. (He jokingly shares it was over so fast they could have fought for custody of the wedding cake!) After spending years training with the world’s best relationship and self-development experts and wisdom from his own experiences, Connell is now on a mission to help men defeat loneliness and attract their soul mates as their most authentic, confident selves. He’s the founder of Dating Transformation and author of “Dating Sucks, But You Don’t: The Modern Guy’s Guide to Total Confidence, Romantic Connection, and Finding the Perfect Partner.”

Key Points in this Episode:

✔️  Lean into who you truly are at your core and take off the dating mask.  There’s one thing we all ask on a date, and it’s “how can I get them to like me?” Connell posits that it’s not a good question because the answer makes you someone who’s seeking validation. Instead, ask a much better question to ask yourself like “HOW CAN I MAKE THIS PERSON SMILE?” or “how can we connect in a genuine place?” If your date feels that you see the real them, you have a much better chance of a fantastic romantic connection.

✔️ Dating during COVID is like the 1890s, and courtship came back. The pandemic has drastically changed the dating scene to become slower yet better. Covid encouraged people to discover emotional intimacy through communication in finding the perfect partner by listening to each other a lot more closely and connecting emotionally. 

✔️ You can’t connect with someone else unless you connect with your awesomeness first. Connell reminds us that as we’ve been through rough relationships, it is crucial to hold those truths and build a rock-solid belief system in yourself — that you are enough! You are attractive! You are a great catch! Every day, remind yourself that you are valuable and worthy, and see that your dream person will ABSOLUTELY come for you.

Connect with Connell Barrett

Connell is a Relationship Expert and the Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation, a relationship consulting business founded in 2017 and based out of New York City. Connell advises clients based on his A.C.E. Dating System: Authenticity, Clarity, and Expressiveness. He is also a dating coach with the dating app The League. His work has been featured in Cosmopolitan, The Oprah Magazine, and Today. 


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