I don’t know about you, but I am tired of the saying “New Year, New You”. Why you ask? Because why do we need to create someone new? What is wrong with the old you? I like old me – well, I like parts of old me, but can definitely work on some of old Wendy. Don’t you feel the same way? Why do we feel the need to change and be someone different even if there are part of us we are not always proud of or like? They have contributed to where you are today and aren’t we all just a constant evolution?
So this year I want to change my slogan to “New Year, Newer Old You”. Let’s be honest, there will always be pieces of old you that will remain . . . you may not be the exact same old you, but that old you has helped you become the new old you. Why do we tell ourselves that there is something wrong with a version of ourselves? You are part of your own evolution. With change comes growth – but you are still you. With growth comes learning – and we are in constant growth and learning mode as we get older and have new experiences. So why do we want to get rid of “old” me? Old me got me to new old me.
We have to learn to embrace the old AND how it created the new. Brene Brown’s newest book, Braving the Wilderness, has a quote that I love. “Stop walking through the world looking for confirmation that you don’t belong. You will always find it because you’ve made that your mission. Stop scouring people’s faces for evidence that you’re not enough. You will always find it because you’ve made that your goal. True belonging and self-worth are not goods. We don’t negotiate their value with the world. The truth about who we are lives in our hearts.
Our call to courage is to protect our wild heart against constant evaluation, especially our own. No one belongs here more than (new old) you.” Chills, right? I want to say it again “We don’t negotiate our worth with other people.”
Yet we allow this to happen and feel the urge to change because of it. Why? Accepting all parts of old you means knowing in your heart it is still there. Have the courage to accept it, evolve parts of it, learn and grow. All of new and old you belong here. My wish for you in 2018 is to be present as new AND old you – don’t sacrifice old you for the sake of thinking new you is better. Old you evolved into present, new you. And that version of you is beautiful, authentic and strong.