Setting up boundaries is incredibly important for having the co-parenting relationship work. Learning how to communicate with an ex to make decisions for the kids is a lifelong skill you will require to ensure you achieve the life you desire.
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✔️ Refrain from badmouthing your co-parent.
As hard as it is, spurting negative things against our ex puts our children in the middle of our relationship with our co-parent, and that is not the place that our children want to be. What we need to do is put them in the center. That means keeping comments to yourself and separating your relationship with your co-parent from the ties they have with their dad or mom.
✔️ The communication that happens between our children and our co-parent is truly none of our business.
How often have you been tempted to pick up the phone, open a text message or make that call and intervene in the children’s relationship with your co-parent, especially if you don’t agree with what is happening?
Undermining this could be devastating and put your child in an uncomfortable and potentially damaging situation. Be supportive by listening to your child, creating a safe space, and encouraging a healthy environment.
✔️ Communicate with your co-parent in a businesslike manner.
👉🏻 Yes, you are in the ‘business’ of raising children.
When dealing with your co-parent, being businesslike means taking care of yourself, being thoughtful in your interactions, and choosing to respond instead of react.
✔️ Only communicate about your child.
Never make conversations a session where you are to personally attack him or vice versa. A lot of times, our co-parents try to manipulate us or to try to poke a nerve or to push a button that if we take the bait, then all of a sudden, it becomes about you and him instead of about your child. So remember to focus the conversation around your child; that is how you keep them in the center instead of putting them in the middle when it has to do with the two of you.
✔️ Communicate with your co-parent respectfully and disagree privately.
Even when you and your co-parent disagree, consciously hold back from the instant need to snap back and argue. It’s not always easy, but it’s certainly worth it! Co-parenting boundaries set you up for less stress and establish a positive environment for your kids.
Find success in co-parenting by establishing appropriate boundaries. Set yourself up for less stress and adapt these critical communication and decision-making abilities. Ensure that your kids feel as stable as possible and that you and your co-parent show you love them by making the best decisions with them in mind.
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