Key Points in this Episode:✔️ Eric posits that early on, it is necessary to get a therapist or a divorced coach, “we are not as qualified as a therapist who can get to know you in an entirely different manner and be with you when the case is over.” Lawyers most often can focus on the legal side and are not fully qualified to assist you in dealing with the emotional and psychological aspects. ✔️ Be careful who you listen to. Friends and people close to you should be supportive and encouraging during the process. However, should your friends tell you about their case, or the people they know may confuse you. Remember, every case is different, and you must focus more on yours and talk to the professionals. ✔️ Remember that while a divorce is personal, it is also a business transaction. Eric shares that clients who had their cases move the fastest are the ones that decide rationally and treat it like a business transaction. “In 80 -90% of our cases, people figure out what to do with their kids and don’t have many issues.” ✔️You may need a real estate appraiser to come in. Many states don’t recognize what a real estate broker values a house; if you cannot agree on the value of a house with your spouse, you may need a certified real estate appraiser. ✔️ Seek the guidance of parenting coordinators. They can be your fallback and prevent everyone from going to court and resolving new issues. It’s much more expensive to go to court and pay your lawyers than it is to see an excellent therapist or social worker. ✔️ Other experts you may have to bring in are a business evaluator, a forensic accountant, a financial planner, and trust and estate lawyer in the three stages of the divorce process. They will help you make sound decisions and save you from spending higher costs in the future.
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Eric Broder is a co-founding member and partner at Broder Orland Murray & DeMattie LLC.
He is an AV Preeminent rated attorney by Martindale Hubbell®, the highest possible rating in both legal ability and ethical standards, earned through a strenuous peer and judicial review procedure.
He has also been designated a “Top Lawyer” in Family Law, Matrimonial, Arbitration, and Mediation in Westport, Greenwich, New Canaan/Darien, and Fairfield Magazines.
Eric has been selected as a Connecticut Super Lawyers® in Family Law each year from 2013 to 2020. Each year no more than 5% of the lawyers in the state are selected to receive this honor.
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Betrayal: Just hearing or reading this eight-letter word conjures up quite many emotions and beliefs within each of us. This is one of the deepest hurts that we can experience as it hits us right at the core of our ability to love and trust again. In this episode, I cover the biggest lessons learned from my healing journey and how I started seeing my divorce and betrayal as a gift and as a silver lining.
Understand why often litigation becomes necessary and how so many cases would not have settled if a judge or the court personnel wouldn’t have been involved. Learn the bright sides that aren’t spoken about enough, how litigation becomes necessary, and possibly have a peaceful outcome.
We grew up with family, friends, and other people who helped us create many stories that we now continuously have on repeat in our minds. They have become truths that we revert to for a long time. Staying in the past can hurt us, and it is up to us to squash the negative things we have let ourselves believe that no longer serve us.