In this episode, I share the screen with Christine Pittman, the founder of COOKTheSTORY, whose passion is to create recipes that take less time in the kitchen and help women get more time at the table. As a busy single mom of two, Christine totally gets how tough it can be. She shares the wisdom after figuring things out for her own family and the transformative journey of life after Divorce.
Key Points in this Episode:
✔️ Overcoming mom guilt and maximizing “me time”. Christine shares her initial feelings of sharing custody of the children. “When you’re a parent, your kids consume all of your time. Suddenly, I had moments to rediscover myself and figure out what I wanted to do with that time. And that has been the most energizing and centering thing for me.”
✔️ Divorce will teach you to focus on the things you have control over. “Convenience and enough food is the priority at their dad’s. For me, it’s making sure to have a variety of vegetables and fruits. When I used to be so fussing about that, I think it’s good for the kids to see different adults having different priorities feeding themselves.”
✔️ Compromise doesn’t mean caving in or giving up what’s important to you. This is one of the biggest lessons you learn when dealing with your former spouse, kids, parents, and friends. You can compromise but still honour your identity, likes and dislikes, and understand how to navigate and voice what feels right to you and engage in dialogue around what will work for everybody.
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Going through an immense betrayal can be the most difficult thing to get over. In fact, it makes it hard for us to trust others again. Believe me. I know how it feels. My ex-husband cheated on me, and he was the last person I’d have ever thought to be capable of hurting me. It took me some time to realize that trust has to start within ourselves.
After her son was born, Kristy Carruthers had to sell off their clothing, jewelry, and belongings. She started interviewing for jobs at four weeks postpartum. After living on credit cards for a few months, she just hit the end of the rope and ended up having to sell the house to pay the credit card bills. That’s when the mind shift happened. I said to myself, ‘You know what? This can never happen again. This is not acceptable.'”
When I was married, divorce was never on my mind.
It never occurred to me that it had to be something I should learn about.
Fast forward to today, it continues to be that gift that keeps on giving. It has taught me about myself more than I ever knew.
Even though I’ve undergone therapy, I still believe that what I’ve endured and experienced post-divorce unraveled five lessons that I never would’ve discovered on my own.