Do you feel isolated and in need of connection after divorce? You’re definitely not alone.
Choosing who we spend time with after divorce is an intentional choice that requires us to first look at what we truly want and how we want to spend our time.
In this episode, Divorced Over 40 creator Daniel Herrold shares his journey to creating a community for divorced individuals. During this conversation, we dive into the importance of connection and why so many people start dating too soon after divorce when what they’re truly looking for is a tribe.
Three Things You’ll Love About This Episode:
Learn the impact of community on your emotional recovery
During this interview Daniel shares the moment he realized the importance of community and how those connections helped him do the emotional work of divorce.
Understand how the divorce process differs between women and men
Daniel discusses how men process emotional needs post-divorce and we explore how processing may look different but come to the same positive result.
Challenge yourself to have tough conversations
Think about the questions you should be asking yourself when dating potential partners in order to avoid difficult situations later.
Daniel is the Co-Creator of DivorcedOver40, an online community of divorcees in their 40’s & 50’s, as well as a dad to 3. Daniel enjoys helping others find joy in their independence and self-discovery over 40 by providing content & creating a community for this age group.
Going through an immense betrayal can be the most difficult thing to get over. In fact, it makes it hard for us to trust others again. Believe me. I know how it feels. My ex-husband cheated on me, and he was the last person I’d have ever thought to be capable of hurting me. It took me some time to realize that trust has to start within ourselves.
After her son was born, Kristy Carruthers had to sell off their clothing, jewelry, and belongings. She started interviewing for jobs at four weeks postpartum. After living on credit cards for a few months, she just hit the end of the rope and ended up having to sell the house to pay the credit card bills. That’s when the mind shift happened. I said to myself, ‘You know what? This can never happen again. This is not acceptable.'”
When I was married, divorce was never on my mind.
It never occurred to me that it had to be something I should learn about.
Fast forward to today, it continues to be that gift that keeps on giving. It has taught me about myself more than I ever knew.
Even though I’ve undergone therapy, I still believe that what I’ve endured and experienced post-divorce unraveled five lessons that I never would’ve discovered on my own.