Does processing your divorce feel like you’re constantly navigating life in the dark?
Often after a divorce when we seek out ways to start the healing process, it can feel like no one understands. That feeling leaves people thinking that if there are no options out there to heal from the experience we weren’t meant to heal at all, and Elizabeth Cohen is here to help.
In this episode, author, psychologist, and community creator Elizabeth Cohen shares the lessons she learned after dealing with her own divorce from her ex-husband due to substance abuse. We discuss everything from the fear and judgment that comes with telling your story to others to flipping the script and shining the spotlight back on yourself. If you’re feeling lost and unfocused while on the road to healing from divorce, you should listen to this episode.
Three Things You’ll Love About This Episode:
Learn how to recognize and correct your inner dialogue
The stories of our past derail our progress forward. Listen to the stories you’re telling yourself and empower yourself to create your next best life.
Understand the difference between feelings and facts
Being able to separate reality from how we feel can help to ease the pain, shifting things into a new perspective.
Get reacquainted with yourself
When relationships end we realize that somewhere along the way we may have lost what makes us, “us.” Learn how to explore what it means to be you and how that feeling fits into your new normal.
Dr. Cohen is a clinical psychologist. She is the CEO and founder of the online divorce course and membership Afterglow: The Light at the Other Side of Divorce and the CEO of the Center for CBT in NYC. Dr. Cohen’s online course teaches women how to heal, grow and thrive after divorce no matter how difficult the process has been. She has been featured on the Tamron Hall Show, the Wall Street Journal, NBC News, Women’s Health, Huff Post, Thrive Global, Daily Beast, and Good Housekeeping.
Dr. Cohen is a weekly contributor to Psychology Today with her “Divorce Course” column.
Dr. Cohen hosts the Divorce Doctor podcast where she interviews people about their divorce experiences.
Going through an immense betrayal can be the most difficult thing to get over. In fact, it makes it hard for us to trust others again. Believe me. I know how it feels. My ex-husband cheated on me, and he was the last person I’d have ever thought to be capable of hurting me. It took me some time to realize that trust has to start within ourselves.
After her son was born, Kristy Carruthers had to sell off their clothing, jewelry, and belongings. She started interviewing for jobs at four weeks postpartum. After living on credit cards for a few months, she just hit the end of the rope and ended up having to sell the house to pay the credit card bills. That’s when the mind shift happened. I said to myself, ‘You know what? This can never happen again. This is not acceptable.'”
When I was married, divorce was never on my mind.
It never occurred to me that it had to be something I should learn about.
Fast forward to today, it continues to be that gift that keeps on giving. It has taught me about myself more than I ever knew.
Even though I’ve undergone therapy, I still believe that what I’ve endured and experienced post-divorce unraveled five lessons that I never would’ve discovered on my own.