So many people have said coaching is “perfect” for me. That I was meant to do this. And deep down, they are right. I have always been the friend people confide in because I listen, don’t judge, and provide a welcoming face that embraces those in my company. I am in the moment with you – every step. And truly, that is where I want to be. I love being curious about people – and being there for those I care about. But I want to be there for more than just those I care about because so many people in this world need someone to listen to them. Regardless of where you are in life, how old you are, however many friends you have – we all need someone to just listen. And I am your gal!
So why at 41 am I launching a new career? Well to be honest I don’t really see it that way. Why you ask? Because this has always been who I am. In every position I’ve held I have always been the one that everyone confides in, seeks out when in conflict, looking for help to resolve an issue. And I love being that person. I hold the secrets of hundreds of colleagues – none I have ever shared. But through my kind and understanding heart, my calming presence and my ability to be curious I have helped so many to see what is truly buried in your subconscious and what path they should follow. Better yet, to see things from a different perspective. This has not been done through me providing solutions – but through listening, acknowledging, caring, being curious and helping those to see what is right in front of them.
Seeing the whole person – something we are not trained to do – requires letting go of the “fix-it” mentality. Or as I like to call it the “Superman complex.” That does not mean that I do not use my inner super hero . . . oh goodness no. Because she is with me every day, guiding me. Some days I listen to her more than others. Come on, I am human too. But how many times do we sit down with someone and say to ourselves, “ok I can help them. I will give them the BEST advice and solve this problem for them.” While innate, that is the opposite of what we should be doing. Feels uncomfortable, right? Good, it should. Because in the place of discomfort is where growth happens.
So next time your bestie comes to you with a problem, try listening and asking questions like “What makes you feel this way” or “How so” or “What does that feel like” instead of solving their problems because at the end of the day each of us has an inner super hero looking to shine. Most of us just need a nudge.