Happy Monday everyone! I recently posted on my IG @youtwopointo a quote by George Bernard Shaw that resonates deeply with me – “Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” What comes up for you when you read these words?
What comes up for me is this – Finding oneself implies you are lost on the path and there is only one solution to who you are vs creating oneself means there are infinite possibilities and opportunities to experience and become. Life is a journey with no set destination and each road traveled has a purpose. We also learn new things about ourselves along the way, so I believe we are constantly finding who we are at any given time. It isn’t a finite destination that we “land on” like on a board game. We are always evolving. Or at least I want to!
Over my life so many experiences have shaped the woman I am today – but I know she continues to evolve, learn and grow. I crave that for myself! I am a constant creation; an even better version of who I was even just one month ago! Giving oneself permission to desire creating their best self is the greatest gift we can give ourselves. We have the right and power within ourselves to pivot, change our mind, apply a new lesson to who we choose to be – unapologetically.
For those of us living through the day to day trauma of divorce we go through multiple phases that require constant adaptation. There are days where we are angry, sad, in denial, feeling pain; and others where we are excited, hopeful and happy. Some days we feel lighter and others feel like they drag on forever. Neither side is better or worse – it just IS! The roller coaster of emotions around divorce contribute to the journey of self discovery. The journey is not just a passive or mental one. It is one that requires you to explore new hobbies, embrace new passions, identify your key values, and revisit your life purpose. When you open yourself to the abundance of possibilities, anything is possible. Every path is available. And you can always choose a new one – try them all out! See what feels best. One path today may not work, but perhaps in 3 months it will. What are you waiting for? Give yourself permission to be you at every moment of every day!
Being curious is at the center of finding oneself. Curious about who you are, what you want, what you don’t want, what you will or won’t tolerate – all of these things contribute to who you are. And guess what you guys . . . curiosity did NOT kill the cat! It does require courage and a change in perspective – think you can manage to do that?
I dare you to get curious about something you’ve been avoiding and see what you discover!
You may find someone in the mirror you did not expect or thought might be in there. Guess what – you may like her more and I bet she has been waiting for you to find her!
Mr. Shaw, I challenge your quote and raise it with, “Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about constant self discovery.“