We live in a world where balance seems impossible. But the way we think about balance is on a more grand scale like how can my life be in better balance with work? Or perhaps how may I balance being a mom/dad AND a wife/husband AND a daughter/son AND a sister/brother AND friend and make decisions that serve me vs others? Today I want to throw out a suggestion – instead of looking at the whole why don’t we look at the parts separately? In other words how can we evaluate each situation individually and try on different perspectives about those situations to see what might feel best and more in balance.
We live in a time where we move quickly, checking things off our list to feel productive and move the day along. We make less conscious choices the faster we move because we tend to take the easiest path possible. Sound familiar?! What would happen if we slowed down and made more conscious choices and decisions? What might be possible? The heart of feeling more balance in our lives is not about moving quickly; it is about slowing down and making more conscious choices that are more resonant with who we are. Sounds opposite of what should happen, right? But think about it . . . when we move quickly we feel “we have no other choice” or “our choices are x and y”. Imagine what might be possible if you stopped to think about more than one or even two perspectives. Expanding our ability to see more options allows us to make a choice that feels more aligned with who we are vs. settling for what is easiest.
I did this just the other day – I felt stuck in making a decision and I remembered if I just took a few minutes to consider some other options vs the one that was easiest and first came to mind there might be another, better solution that feels more aligned with who I am. And let’s be honest a decision I would not second guess later on. Sound familiar? As someone who likes to be efficient in all I do this felt REALLY uncomfortable . . . and yes it took a a bit longer to come to a decision, but so what? I ended up coming up with a better and more resonant solution vs only seeing the two options I thought I had. And that felt so much better to me – and I was really proud of myself (envision me patting myself of the back). Suddenly I felt like I had more possibilities vs letting the circumstances control what could be done. It was also really fun to be creative and think of other ways to go about finding a solution that made me go ah-ha more confidently! The best part . . . I was able to file the situation away, be more present in the rest of my day and not dwell!
So what are you waiting for? How will you integrate more balance in one area of your life today? Share with us what the experience felt like – I want to know!