No, this isn’t a result of my divorce. It’s something I’ve believed in even while I was married to my ex-husband.
Valentine’s Day has been watered down to a hallmark holiday. The media has instilled in us that we deserve to be showered with love only one day a year.
But the truth is: Loving ourselves and others should last all year round.
Tune in to this episode on All the Reasons Why I Dislike Valentine’s Day.
Top points you’ll discover:
✔️Revisit old hobbies. What is something you used to love doing that you had to give up? Something simple as reading 10 pages of a book or going on a quick hike can give you that extra mood-lifting boost to your day.
✔️ Speak kindly to yourself. We would never say terrible things to our friends. But when we speak to ourselves, it’s the complete opposite. We are our own best friends. Throw away all the excuses, start paying attention to your thoughts, and ask yourself: “Does this serve me in my process of self-love?” Give yourself a compliment because you deserve it.
✔️Commit to loving yourself every single day of the year. You may be in a tough time right now, but it’s not worth sacrificing your self-worth. At the start of my journey, it was hard to find something positive. But I realized I was capable of finding love – by finding ways to give it to myself. Take this as a challenge.
✔️ Understand the things you love about yourself, even if people can’t see them. I tend to be obsessive when it comes to cleaning. Others may define this as a flaw, but I consider this a vital part of me. Embrace your qualities, and see them as something positive.
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Going through an immense betrayal can be the most difficult thing to get over. In fact, it makes it hard for us to trust others again. Believe me. I know how it feels. My ex-husband cheated on me, and he was the last person I’d have ever thought to be capable of hurting me. It took me some time to realize that trust has to start within ourselves.
After her son was born, Kristy Carruthers had to sell off their clothing, jewelry, and belongings. She started interviewing for jobs at four weeks postpartum. After living on credit cards for a few months, she just hit the end of the rope and ended up having to sell the house to pay the credit card bills. That’s when the mind shift happened. I said to myself, ‘You know what? This can never happen again. This is not acceptable.'”
When I was married, divorce was never on my mind.
It never occurred to me that it had to be something I should learn about.
Fast forward to today, it continues to be that gift that keeps on giving. It has taught me about myself more than I ever knew.
Even though I’ve undergone therapy, I still believe that what I’ve endured and experienced post-divorce unraveled five lessons that I never would’ve discovered on my own.